I'm a blog novice. I've read a few, but never written anything until just now. As a writer, the thing I struggle with is Fear in many of its (probably infinite) guises. When I look closely, all of my other struggles in life are actually all about fear: fear of criticism, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of getting in trouble, fear of people saying mean things to me. These fears slow my writing progress as they move into my writing studio and bring along friends (Distraction, Procrastination, Obligation) and set up large encampments where other fears can breed. I'm hoping that the spontaneous nature of blogs will diminish the presence of these fears and reduce the illusory importance of the written word. After all, it's only writing.
Jerry Colonna's blog, in particular, has inspired me to be brave about just putting it out there. I don't know Jerry very well, but feel that I know him better after I read what he writes. One of my biggest writing guides, Natalie Goldberg, says in one of her books that all readers really want is to know the writer better, and while I quibble with that (which is my skeptical nature), when I read Jerry's blog I admire his courage and his ability to create a sense of intimacy through his writing. In addition, I share his interest with Buddhist thought and action, and that commonality probably helps me feel connected to him. Thanks, Jerry.
And really, thanks to Brad, my funny husband, for guiding me through the blog setup process, which entailed downloading a newer version of Windows and other ugly computer stuff and patiently sitting near to me while I clicked on things that he told me not to click on. He's a good guy.
And how do you end your first blog post? I guess I'm figuring it out as I go along, which is only what all of us are doing, all the time.
Your comment about fear left an impression on me and I am now responding to it many many months later. I think both fear and anger are born out of desire. So in order to overcome fear, one must overcome desire and the way to overcome desire is to first recognize it and then elevate oneself to a higher plane/cause. All easier said than done!
Posted by: meena | Thursday, April 28, 2005 at 08:43 AM
Hi,
I just wanted to share information about something that has been a huge help with my Social Anxiety (has reduced it by 75% for over a year now.)
It's a free network of free support groups for people with Social Phobia and other Social Anxiety problems.
**(Which by coincidence is based in Boulder, Colorado).**
The name of the organization is-- Social Phobics Anonymous
SPAs' web address is:
www.healsocialanxiety.com
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Social Phobics Anonymous (also called S.P.A.) uses a 12 step recovery approach, adapted from A.A. and O.C.A. to recover from our Social Anxiety Problems.
In addition to the 12 steps, we also use the principles for healing fear developed by Rhonda Britton in her book "Fearless Living".
**S.P.A. is not opposed to other recovery approaches and a good percentage of SPAs members use our approach in combination with other therapies-- like medication, behavior therapy, exposure therapy, ect with good results.
Posted by: Phil | Friday, December 17, 2004 at 06:58 AM
Amy. I too am new. Very new, just in the past couple of days. I have come to blogging at the suggestion of a friend in the VC world when I asked him for guidance about getting to know people within the industry, to try to "re-direct" my career. I don't know exactly how I will accomplish this but so far it's been fun. Sort of like if you were to discover a hidden cave in your backyard that you never knew was there. It is exciting and spooky to step in and see where the tunnels lead. Danger? Adventure? Friendship? Treasure? We'll see. I think I am remembering now what it is my kids feel when they come upon an entirely new concept. Thanks for helping to inspire my first step.
Posted by: Tom Wyckoff | Monday, November 01, 2004 at 02:14 PM
Does this mean that you have given up on blogging?
Posted by: Christy | Sunday, October 24, 2004 at 02:13 PM
Hi Amy
Congratulations on your new Blog. Im a newbie to Blogs too. How are you finding Typepad as a Blog tool? Im looking to find a blog tool.
I linked from Brad's site. Im based in Hong Kong and was searching on VC's Blogs. Im working on establishing a China Fund. Couldnt help but follow a link to a namesake. Originally our family emigrated from Britain to New Zealand. Ive been in HK 11 years. Appologies if somehow this type of comment is non-blog etiquette approved..*S* all the best Andrew Batchelor
Posted by: Andrew Batchelor | Wednesday, August 04, 2004 at 11:44 AM
Yet another congratulation. I just found Brad's blog last night. I'm glad to see you both in the fray. (And it looks like you already have a huge audience. No pressure. :)
Re: fear - it's an awful thing. I've done a self-help type reading in the past year, and it seems to me that most blocks we have come from fear (clutter is another one - read David Allen's "Getting Things Done" to fix that). A big a-ha for me came when I started learning about transactional analysis, popularized by "I'm OK, You're OK" - if you haven't read it, trust me, it's not what you think. "The Power of Now" was another great inspiration, even though I don't think of myself as spiritual.
Fear is all in your head - it's just an emotional, subjective reaction to a situation you've learned to be scared of, probably when you were a child.
Of course, the challenge is how to conquer the fear, or at least make it manageable. This is where cognitive behavioralism was a big help for me, too. Here's one trick that worked for me: wear a rubber band on your wrist for a while and snap it every time you have a negative thought. It sounds silly, but it works. I wore one for about three months last year and it did wonders. The main value is that it trains you to monitor your thoughts and, over time, change them.
I could go on and on. (I already have.) Keep posting. I'm sure you'll figure something out.
Posted by: Derek Scruggs | Wednesday, June 23, 2004 at 11:29 PM
Congrats on your blog-and good luck! The great think about blogging is that you can make it exactly what you want it to be.
Jerry's blog inspires me, as well, btw.
Posted by: susan mernit | Wednesday, June 23, 2004 at 10:56 AM
Congrats...a new addition for you.
Posted by: gotham gal | Wednesday, June 23, 2004 at 05:35 AM
Hi Amy, welcome to Blogistania.
Brad should add an xml link to your site :-)!
I've found a few writerly blog sites that may be of interest:
http://www.digitalfiction.co.uk/digitalfiction/ -- experimental new media work
http://www.ftrain.com/
http://www.fray.com/ -- communal story-telling blog site, with some interesting work
http://chujoe.net/ Blog by a Pa. based professor and poet and progressive. Who writes very well..
Posted by: JB | Monday, June 21, 2004 at 04:39 PM
Welcome to your new addiction. ;)
I read on your husband's site (which I just found this morning) that you were looking for writer's blogs. You might enjoy browsing through these two: Living Small (http://livingsmall.typepad.com/livingsmall) and Hoarded Ordinaries (http://www.lorianneschaub.com/blog).
Posted by: Kari | Monday, June 21, 2004 at 11:29 AM